We need new Domestic Violence laws

Well today was the best shitty day in a long time!!

At first it may appear that I somehow lost today. The truth behind that could not be better disguised. Lol

Today I had, what I considered a (DV) domestic violence situation occurring.

Through this process I called DCPP and was advised since it is not physical in nature, they cannot come out to open a case. I was advised to go to Ocean County Superior Court and file for a restraining order. The police were involved too, but legally they cannot assist with regards to child custody issues. I was trying to report a case of domestic violence and get a restraining order. No one would look at our text communication, my supporting documents or take the time to really listen to me and to help me. I was advised to go to the court. LTPD was kind enough to drive us to the court and then home after our matters were settled because I was not feeling well today and didn’t feel well enough to be driving. I got car sick on our way to court and had the officer turn around and take me back home, I was not going to make that drive. Hopefully that is the first and last time my daughter is ever in the back of a police car alone or with me. Lol

I made it to court later after I felt well enough. I got exactly what I expected and nothing of what I hoped for. The probation officer that helped me really took the time to listen to me, document my encounters and give me the due diligence I deserve. Then it went over for DV hearing before we went in front of a judge. My restraining order was denied, because my complaints do not constitute harassment under the current DV laws. Actually there is not a category under the current DV laws that this abuse does fall in. This abuse is a silent killer and the laws cannot even hear the desperate pleas from the other men and women that I know and they too may suffer in silence. 

I appealed and went before the Judge. She too, had to deny a restraining order under the current laws. She did make a recommendation though and I intend to follow it.

This is only one battle of many expected to come. I will no longer allow anyone to silence me. I have a voice and I intend to use it to fight for my rights and the rights of my child from her mentally ill father. It is no longer my job to protect his image. My job is to protect myself and my daughter. 

Please support me and help me make my words and my voice go VIRAL.

PLEASE and Thank you.

I know I am not the only one subjected to this very real psychological abuse, nor excluded from the effects of their toxic environments. Hello 👋🏻 anxiety and hello 👋🏻 depression. We are all fighting daily battles, so please help me help myself so I can help my daughter and as many others as I can xo.

Now I have to live with the guilt of having to send her to her father for the night after a damaging day like today. That is the only reason my day is shitty.